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Post by king nothing on Sept 16, 2021 14:45:42 GMT
Not sure if it happens often, but for me, it was a first. I'm 49 and been in a relationship for nearly two years. She is absolutely incredible. What I mean is, when you're together, no one else exists. She was my sole focus. We have so much fun and she opened up brand new experiences to me being from another culture. I ate food I would never try, learned how to use chop sticks, started learning mandarin. I became more assertive at work and in life. I had this beautiful, amazing lady calling me handsome! Me, handsome. Wow, king of the World. Today was a hammer blow from Thor himself. She has a kid with her ex husband. She broke up with me to go back with him for the kid. To say I'm devastated is a massive understatement. My head is all over the place. Mate. My heart breaks for you. Much love and best wishes to you. This too, shall pass, and in the meantime, we're here for you. I probably phrased it wrong tbh. When I say no one else exists, its like if we were out for a meal, I would barely notice other people there. Walking down a street and she commented on how good looking this woman was who walked past. I'd not even noticed. I am truly devastated. A fucking big black hole has swallowed me up. I even bought a new house last year in another town hoping one day, we might make a home together. Life sure sucks right now.
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Post by Paul on Sept 17, 2021 8:51:03 GMT
Not sure if it happens often, but for me, it was a first. I'm 49 and been in a relationship for nearly two years. She is absolutely incredible. What I mean is, when you're together, no one else exists. She was my sole focus. We have so much fun and she opened up brand new experiences to me being from another culture. I ate food I would never try, learned how to use chop sticks, started learning mandarin. I became more assertive at work and in life. I had this beautiful, amazing lady calling me handsome! Me, handsome. Wow, king of the World. Today was a hammer blow from Thor himself. She has a kid with her ex husband. She broke up with me to go back with him for the kid. To say I'm devastated is a massive understatement. My head is all over the place. Ah sorry to hear that mate that's rough. Keep ya chin up mate you'll get through it 👊
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Post by dazjoe on Sept 17, 2021 21:14:44 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything.
Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that.
It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated.
Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone.
Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for.
He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite.
Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home.
I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit.
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Post by traffordbrown on Sept 17, 2021 23:23:54 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. Daz, that is an appalling situation. I'm really sorry.
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Post by dazjoe on Sept 18, 2021 0:26:31 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. Daz, that is an appalling situation. I'm really sorry. Thanks mate. Seen so many of these stories over the last year, even just within Australia. States closing their borders to each other and refusing to allow people to cross them to visit dying loved ones. I know so much is going on and people need to try and keep safe, but where the fuck has the humanity gone? Stopping sons & daughters, mothers & fathers from saying a last goodbye to their closest and dearest loved ones.
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Post by king nothing on Sept 18, 2021 3:53:59 GMT
Holy shit Daz. I'm really sorry man. Is there anything I can do for you over here for your family? Thinking of you dude. If you need owt, just holler.
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Post by redcase on Sept 18, 2021 3:58:15 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. I won't go into it, but believe me, I know what you mean. Governments putting up these blanket closures with no exceptions is absolutely fucking heartless and appalling. I'm so sorry for your loss and what you've had to go through.
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Post by redcase on Sept 18, 2021 3:59:45 GMT
Mate. My heart breaks for you. Much love and best wishes to you. This too, shall pass, and in the meantime, we're here for you. I probably phrased it wrong tbh. When I say no one else exists, its like if we were out for a meal, I would barely notice other people there. Walking down a street and she commented on how good looking this woman was who walked past. I'd not even noticed. I am truly devastated. A fucking big black hole has swallowed me up. I even bought a new house last year in another town hoping one day, we might make a home together. Life sure sucks right now. That sucks mate. Really does. To lose someone you care for so much is one of the worst feelings.
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Post by Deez on Sept 18, 2021 5:41:23 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. Brother. Hits home that, Uncle in Geelong ignored blood in his shit for a year and a half because he didn't want to sound like a drama queen and then he found out he had colon cancer which spread through all his organs. So chemo was pissing in the wind but he's still doing it. Facetimed him and he looks awful. Not even gonna pretend to give you good advice cos my old man is in the same predicament other way round for when it happens and we're still not sure what the rules will be then. God Bless Daz.
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Post by Chris on Sept 18, 2021 7:40:39 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. Really sorry to hear that brother.
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Post by Kojak on Sept 18, 2021 10:27:41 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. That’s awful mate, so sorry to hear that.
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Post by Reduntildeath on Sept 19, 2021 7:22:56 GMT
Mate. My heart breaks for you. Much love and best wishes to you. This too, shall pass, and in the meantime, we're here for you. I probably phrased it wrong tbh. When I say no one else exists, its like if we were out for a meal, I would barely notice other people there. Walking down a street and she commented on how good looking this woman was who walked past. I'd not even noticed. I am truly devastated. A fucking big black hole has swallowed me up. I even bought a new house last year in another town hoping one day, we might make a home together. Life sure sucks right now. Sorry to hear that bud, nothing worse, but you’ll get through I’m sure, and you know where we all are!
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Post by Reduntildeath on Sept 19, 2021 7:28:39 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. So sorry man, your situation is unique to you as it was your dad. Really awful that Covid has prevented so many people from being with their families in bad times. Absolutely fucking horrible. Easy for me to say ,but try and keep strong.
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Post by Stretty on Sept 19, 2021 13:52:01 GMT
RIP John Challis(Boycie of only fools and horses)
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Post by Paul on Sept 19, 2021 16:47:45 GMT
Fuck Covid. Fuck everything. Been wanting to get back home for ages now. Me dad was diagnosed with colon cancer last year. He was positive, constantly talked about getting back over here one more time to see me, he'd beat it, etc. In any other year I would have gone home like a shot, at least for a couple of weeks. Seen him when still OK and he could do things, so we could get out and about, go for beers (only one or two for him of course), have a couple of little trips and that. It spread, and me mam and brother had told me he's looking awful. Back in hospital, could hardly breath. We still talked and he still went on about getting back here, it was his one goal and he wouldn't be defeated. Mam called me yesterday to say he's gone. Can't even really get back, Australia needs you to guarantee you'll be out the country for at least 3 months in order to get an exemption to leave. I could do that I suppose but my life is here, I can't just pack everything up for that long. And I'd have to leave my wife here. She could come but her mam is pretty poorly too, quite elderly; what if something happened to her whilst we're stuck over there and can't return? And that takes us well into winter, what if there's another lockdown in the UK and Australia bans people from flying in? Fuck knows how long I could be stuck for. He said he doesn't want a funeral anyway, just straight to cremation, he hated all that shite. Hasn't really sunk in yet that he's gone, reckon that'll be in the days to come it'll really hit home. I know my situation is hardly unique but fuck this shit. So sorry to hear this mate. Fucking awful situation to be in.
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