Advice

[Daz]

This past page and a half the things that have been said have really helped.. again lol. Can't stress enough how good it is to hear people and guys who will just willingly burden some of your load and then offer advice and not pass judgement and think man up you pussy. So I'm eternally grateful for the support.

Got to my flat yesterday and completely broke down.. oh dear lol. Everything that I usually bottle up and swallow all just kinda erupted. The feeling of being trapped, completely hungry but no desire to eat at all, hating myself and so on just kind of wasn't cutting it seems. My mate came down from Manchester I was completely blind drunk on my own before he came by early afternoon, I met another friend I've got down here who said let's go out. Before I left the flat I met this girl who was living in the flat next to me, and we were ping pong flirting for about an hour, and she was stunning.. so that helped. Went out got mashed blind off booze and other shit, then I met this girl who is one of my ex's best friends, and she'd asked how I was earlier in the day and I had no idea she'd be out. We'd got to talking I let it out that I'd fancied her for ages and we sat outside the club until 6 talking and we got off and whatnot. I got back home at 11-12 in the morning, rang my girlfriend which I regret yet again, and I told her some soppy things. But again she just didn't care to listen to me.

I'm completely annoyed how I went about yesterday, right now I feel numb about other girls because in my head Jessica Biel could throw herself at me and all I'd want is my ex back, you know? Being back out in the game helps, because everyone wants attention, so I'm taking it step by step at the moment and plucking up the courage to delete her number and not talk to her again.

[jimbonda]

dude without wanting to directly tell you what to do - i'd urge you to delete her number, facebook, email addresses and any lines of communication. a soppy, drunken phone call is pretty normal and to be expected and you've done that now. but if it continues the damage isn't to be underestimated, trust me. i tried every trick in the book to break through what i saw was a misguided armour she was putting up, i tried a rational chat, persuasion, yelling, sobbing, the lot. all it did was push her further away from me, make her lose her respect for me and it also made me lose respect for myself. i was about 21 / 22 and seriously wet behind the ears [not saying you are].

then my last break up a couple of years ago i checked myself. she actually wanted to be friends but for my sanity i could handle no contact, because i was still in that state of wanting to give the relationship another go and she wasn't. so i couldn't handle talking to her. changed numbers, stayed well away from facebook, anything it took to put a wall between me and her.

each to their own, some can be mates afterwards like bojangles and his ex. it depends on you and the girl and the intracies of your relationship. you might find further on down the road you two can talk. but trust me. you need to have ZERO contact for a good period of time.

[Kamilo]

What's the update daz?

[Rene Meulensteen]

Just caught this thread and managed to catch up to here. How are things going now? From what it sounded like mate the parents had a lot to do with this break up and it sounds to me they made use of their time away with just their daughter to bend her ear about her relationship.

It's shit mate but parents do that, all the more so when they don't like someone their sibling is seeing.

The best thing for you to do in my opinion is stop all communication with her, I've been in a similar situation, I was with a girl for over 4 years from school right through college, ended up living with her and her mum and sister while I was without a home for a while and I honestly believed we were soul mates.

After a while our relationship was affected by living together so early and so young and we grew apart, after we split up we spoke to each other still and there was still that love there for each other and I was still really hurt about it all and all I could think about was being with her and that I'd never find anyone that I'd feel that way about again.

Enough was enough, this talking back and forth year after year was doing me no good and was constantly confusing my mind and I could never move on from it and something had to give. In the end I told her that I couldn't talk to her anymore, I was deleting her number and asked her not to contact me again. I deleted my facebook, everything and I've never looked back, I got married 3 weeks ago!!

Honestly mate, out of sight, out of mind. You'll never NOT think about her, you'll be bound too, she's been a big part of your life, but life moves on ya know and the more you don't speak the quicker things will get easier. These things happen that mould the way you are, they're life lessons mate, if we didn't have things like this in our life we'd never learn from anything.

Can honestly say, being at a place where I thought I'd found the one and only person I'd ever want to be with to now being with someone I could never see myself being without and those two people being completely different, you never know what's round the corner.

Let us know how you're getting on mate!

[Kamilo]

Daz hoping things are going well!

[SAF_Legend]

But really, like Kamilo, I hope you're okay.

[Kamilo]

Sept 26, 2012 13:47:48 GMT SAF_Legend said:

But really, like Kamilo, I hope you're okay.

Strangely.. that resembles me.

[Jayrannasaurus]

Anyone know how the lad is doing these days?

[Deleted]

Feb 25, 2013 7:19:43 GMT Jayrannasaurus said:

Anyone know how the lad is doing these days?

She killed him?

[Kamilo]

Feb 25, 2013 8:36:37 GMT @cavelly2k said:

Feb 25, 2013 7:19:43 GMT Jayrannasaurus said:

Anyone know how the lad is doing these days?

She killed him?

I honestly wonder myself ive kept this in the back of my head.

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Last Login Date: Dec 27, 2012, 8:57pm

[Kamilo]

Feb 25, 2013 14:05:56 GMT Carbon said:

Last Login Date: Dec 27, 2012, 8:57pm

Yeaahhh...

[traffordbrown]

Wherever he is, I'm sure he's ok